Why Am I a Service-Oriented Submissive?

Many submissives fantasize about serving a wealthy master as an English butler in a grand manor or as a French maid serving high tea in a picturesque setting. These fantasies can be wonderful and allow us to express deep parts of ourselves that aren’t nurtured by our daily lives. However, for most, these roles will remain fantasies and not reality.

A service relationship can be role-based, but it doesn’t have to be. It can simply involve two (or more) people who have an arrangement where one dedicates a substantial portion of their time and energy to the service of the other. There doesn’t need to be any protocol, collars, or kinky sex. The arrangement can be as formal or informal as both parties agree upon.

Sometimes, service-oriented submissives become fixated on perceived high-class roles, thinking they need to learn which wine goes with what, how to store and prepare cigars, how to serve a formal dinner, or even how to dock a yacht. Personally, I don’t know anyone with a yacht, and if you don’t either, your chances of ending up in service to someone who needs you to dock one are slim. If formal dinners, tea service, and yachts are part of your everyday world, then embrace that style of service. If not, accept it as a fantasy role. Enjoy it for what it is.

When I first considered providing service, I thought along these lines too. Over time, I learned more about what it means to be a service-oriented submissive and what kind of service might genuinely be useful to a Dominant. Dominants are human beings like anyone else and not some kink dispensers for submissives. They face the same challenges and problems as billions of others. As a service-oriented submissive, if I can relieve some of those day-to-day challenges, I can make their lives a bit easier and better. For example, if your Dominant doesn’t like doing household chores, take the initiative to assume those chores, learning how they prefer them to be done.

Remember the instructions and perform tasks as directed. For instance, my mother is very particular about where her pots and pans go in her kitchen. When I help her with chores, I remember her preferences so she knows where everything is when she needs it. This is a service I perform for my mother without expecting anything in return, simply to make her life easier.

I can provide many examples where my earlier perception of service—being an English butler—shifted to providing meaningful service to my Dominant to make her life easier and more comfortable. No matter how mundane the task, each one performed for my Dominant makes me happy because it makes her life less busy or stressful. By taking care of tasks she doesn’t like or prefers not to do, I free up her time for things she enjoys.

Performing service makes me happy because it makes my Dominant happy. While it might seem like I’m doing this for my satisfaction, which is partially true, I also perform tasks I don’t particularly enjoy because they benefit my Dominant. I can’t just choose to do tasks I like and avoid those I don’t. Each task, whether I like it or not, is done with equal enthusiasm because seeing my Dominant relaxed and happy is the biggest reward for me. I don’t perform service in hopes of a reward but because it makes me feel loved and fulfilled. Do you need any more reason than that?

Skills I Excel At:

• Domestic chores: dusting, vacuuming, cooking, washing, sweeping, ironing, cleaning, polishing mirrors, scrubbing toilets, floors, and bath areas.
• Listening: a good listener with whom you can share and won’t try to provide feedback until requested.
• Personal Service: this includes helping with showering, making a bath, help with drying, help with dressing & undressing, giving medication on time, making sure water cup is full with their preferred beverage, bring items when requested, keeping items on their proper place and more.
• Household Upkeep: this includes replenishing any item which may be running low before it runs out like hair care products, groceries, cleaning supplies and others.
• Pet Care: providing pet grooming services including taking care of their well being, making sure they are fed, have water in their water bowl, keeping their litter box clean, taking them out for stroll.
• Gardening: maintaining gardens and house plants.
• Driving: providing chauffeur services.
• Research: conducting thorough online research.
• Cooking: following recipes or videos to create presentable dishes.
• Massages: giving foot and back massages, with plans to attend massage school for further improvement.
• Tech-savvy: troubleshooting software and hardware issues, creating websites, and developing software.
• Recommendations: suggesting books, movies, and TV shows based on preferences.

I am constantly working on improving myself and am always eager to learn new skills that will benefit my Dominant in daily life.